Thursday, 7 February 2013

Finally been tipped over the edge

Well it was always going to happen, today I finally lost it over the state of our house. I have had enough. Is it to much to ask for everyone to just tidy up after themselves? Yeah, I know Millie is only one but I have been teaching her to put away her toys since she was born.

What finally tipped me over the edge was this. I had purposely left the random letters/magazines/toys on the sofa for a couple of weeks to see if others would realise that was not there home. Now I wont lie, a couple of the things on the sofa were mine, but the important things I wanted to keep to hand were on the arm of the sofa against the wall. So on Monday I couldn't stand it anymore and tidied it myself. Today it looks just as bad as it did prior to Monday!!!

I glanced over at the rest of the front room, to see that it looked like a toy store had just dropped a mass of toys via dumper truck into the middle of my floor. I look over my shoulder onto the window sil to see that even though I have asked 50 times already today Chester has still found it necessary to dump random things like moshi monsters and colouring pencils all over it. I then walk into the hallway, stuff on the stairs, coats on the banister and not in the cupboard (today, I am to blame for that) shoes spilling off the shoe cabinet, the walls still covered in tester paint pots because we still can not decide what colour scheme to go with. In to the cloakroom, and what a surprise. All the items of clothing that Chester was dressed in this morning, sprawled all over the floor. Lovely. Chester is well know for his inability to keep his clothes on for more than 2 hours at a time. It is a real struggle.

I then walked into the kitchen, where over the space of a week since I last spent hours tidying it, Chester has pretty much emptied the contents of his 8 draw arts and craft storage all over the table/floor/breakfast bar/some more floor. The games that slot nicely into a cupboard we have in the kitchen were, again, sprawled all over the floor. Getting to Millie's high chair was like a challenge on fun house.

I wont really go into detail about upstairs as that upsets me even more. But I will say that the good 2 hours I spent with Chester tidying his and Millie's room was a total waste of time.

Its really upsetting to see all the mess, I often think how did it come to this. Don't get me wrong, I know that with kiddies we are never going to have an immaculate house and I am ok with that. And I would also like to point out that our house is clean, its the tidiness that is the issue. But what really gets me down is the fact I tidy one room only to walk into another and see just as much work. Craig is good at helping with the housework, at times I would say he manages to do more of that than me. But when it comes to tidying I really am on my own, and I just can not do it anymore. In the last year I must of tidied the breakfast bar about 8 times, and each time it is used as a dumping ground again within days. We have probably only used it as a breakfast bar a handful of times since moving in.

I know that a lot of the problem comes from the fact that we have got too much stuff for the two bedroom house we live in. I am constantly getting rid of more stuff we no longer need, but it never seems to be enough. It does get me down that we live in a two bedroom house with only one reception room, and I so wish that I had not taken advice from others when we were looking for our first house. I really wanted a 3 bedroomed home, but everyone said no, get a two bedroomed and you can always sell and move when you need too. They said, you need to start at the bottom of the property ladder. But at that time almost 8 years ago it wasn't a problem to do that, we hadn't had a recession, in fact the property market was booming!

8 years on and with me no longer in full time work (I work part time in the evenings), it would be near on impossible for us to move right now. I need to be back into full time work for the mortgage companies to even consider us doing a sideways or upwards move. There is no way I could go back into full time work until both of the children are at school. The childcare costs would mean I would barely earn enough to cover them let alone anything else.

I am not saying I am perfect and always tidy away, we are all to blame but it is mainly me that does the tidying, I can not cope with it anymore.

I would love some ideas on how we can create more space or storage (on a small budget), I would also love some ideas on how we can sort this whole problem out. So if anyone has any please comment below, it would be much appreciated.

Ok, rant over. I must smile through it and get on with tiding the front room (again).


8 comments:

  1. We're all very untidy in this house and it does drive me nuts as well. But I have started leaving it now and closing the door, or just walking round it. My daughter is 13 and old enough to tidy up herself. Her bedroom is typical teenage, very untidy and a complete mess, and she still leaves wet towels on the floor. But I won't move them. I tell her to do it and I stand there until it's done. I think part of the problem for many parents is they give up asking and just do it themselves, so naturally kids will think 'what's the point, mum'll do it anyway...'

    CJ x

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    1. Yeah I think I am definitly guilty of just doing it myself :( x

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  2. I really feel for you, I hate when the house is messy and some days it seems that all I do is tidy up after others, running around putting things away. I wish that my husband would notice the mess, instead he just walks about the house, scattering things as he goes.

    I'm not sure about tips apart from what you already said, try and cut down on stuff, and make sure that everything has a place which is easy to return it to. Also little and often works for me. I identify the 'hot spots', which is where the clutter piles up (for me it's the stairs and the kitchen counters), and try and clear them every day.

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    1. Thanks Jennifer, I am gonna give the hot spots idea a go, hopefully that will help. We just have to much stuff for the size of house :( x

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  3. Oh dear, there must be something in the air!! I could have written this exact post yesterday when I was mid-rant about it all! Having been out of the picture for the best part of two weeks, the mess seems to have grown, and grown, and grown, yet no-one else notices or bothers to tidy up. I had a major meltdown about it all last night which got things done, but I'm not sure they'll stay that way. SO annoying!! I hope yours sort themselves out too, or maybe we should both get the amazing make mess invisible glasses the rest of them seem to wear...

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    1. Oh Leta! Your reply has really made me smile (sorry) We deffo need those mess making invisible glasses!

      Hopefully you and yours can get the mess sorted soon too xx

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  4. As Attachement Mummy has stated above,I could have totally written this post myself, I am so fed up of tidying what seems like every minute of every hour of every day, and it's so frustrating that as I'm putting away toys Jared will just get them out again, when they didn't hold his interest at all until he seen me tidying them away! J has four small and one large toy tubs in the bedroom and no matter how often I tidy them away which is currently averaging between once in the morning and once at night, he just empties them again straight away! The living room and kitchen don't seem to stay tidy for longer than 5 minutes- why do I even bother? I hope you feel better about it all soon hun! XX

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    1. Thank you, I feel a bit better for venting off about it tbh. But it is still an ongoing issue :( xx

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